The Forgotten Value Of Asking Questions


I have observed over the years many Kidmin Leaders make the mistake of “arriving” in ministry.  They achieve a certain level of “success” and decide they know it all (or at least all they care to know).

When this happens, they move into protectionism.  They are constantly trying to protect their reputation as a “knowledgeable and capable leader.”  I have watched as these leaders begin to sink because they are not willing to do something that could help them keep rising in leadership – ASK QUESTIONS.

Admitting you don’t know it all and asking others for their input is difficult for insecure leaders.  Sadly, you miss out on incredible opportunities to continue growing when you fail to ask questions.  Here are some of the questions I ask and the people I ask them to:

My Pastor/Boss
*  Is there anything I am not doing in ministry that you would like to see me begin doing?
*  Is there anything I AM doing in ministry that you would like to see me STOP doing?
*  Is there any area of growth in my life that you see needs to be addressed?
*  What can I do to serve you better?
*  What can I do to serve my team better?
*  What is the biggest challenge you face in leading me?
*  How can I pray for you and your family?

My Team
*  What is the biggest challenge you find in having me as a leader?
*  What is the biggest thing you appreciate about my leadership?
*  What is one thing I can do NOW to help you grow personally?
*  How can I pray for you and your family?

The Parents In My Ministry
*  What are the ways we can serve you better as a parent?
*  What is the thing we do BEST as a ministry?
*  What is the area we most need to IMPROVE?
*  How can I pray for you and your family?

Take some time in the coming weeks and meet with your pastor, team members, and a group of parents in your ministry.  Ask some of these questions (and avoid the tendency to have a rebuttal to their answers – after all, the goal is to GAIN KNOWLEDGE, not prove them wrong).  They will be impressed with your desire to grow.  And, you just might gain some information you were not aware of that may take your ministry effectiveness to the next level.

What are some questions you ask yourself, your pastor, your team, and your parents?  Share them in the comments section!

5 thoughts on “The Forgotten Value Of Asking Questions

  1. This is true. One area we started asking our parents about a year ago is how are we doing with getting information to them. Not so good. So we picked ourselves up and we implemented: A monthly print out calendar, a Facebook(PRICELESS: if your ministry doesn’t have one of these, you should.) We also host a texting service for our parents. We text once a week on saturday evenings to let our parents know any special promotions for Sunday. All those things add up to us making sure our parents (who we serve) have all the information they need. Between print, text, and Facebook, we cover a wide variety of ways parents get their info and it’s been very successful and was a way we asked a question and responded to our “lack.” Great post Pastor Brian.

  2. Thanks P. Brian for this blog! Great stuff! I’m challenging myself everyday to make this a priority in my life and ministry! I can truly say that I am seeing results. Thank you for giving the specific questions to ask, that was very helpful!

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