In my book, “I Blew It!”, I write about a crazy story where I ended up accidentally wearing a Keystone Cop hat on stage during the most serious moment of our Easter Production. I had tried to be funny backstage and ended up forgetting I was wearing the hat. It’s hilarious to read, but wasn’t so funny when it happened.
My greatest strength in kids’ ministry was my sense of humor. The children loved it, and the volunteers enjoyed it, too. I was able to play goofy characters like Skittles, the Candy Rapper, and a host of others. I was quick-witted and funny. I could make the kids laugh at almost anything, but I had a problem: I allowed this strength to run wild and unrestrained, and it became my greatest liability. This can happen in all of our lives, and it doesn’t just apply to the strength of humor.
—A person who is driven can work so hard chasing his vision that he leaves a trail of ruined relationships behind because people feel used. He may accomplish his goals, but he hurts people in the process.
—A person who is extremely relational can spend all her time socializing and seldom get any work done. She focuses on the person in front of her, but she often misses the big picture and kingdom goals.
—A person who has empathy and senses the pain of others can find himself “taking up the offenses” of others, taking sides, and causing discord and disunity. He may develop tunnel vision by focusing on the hurts of a few but fail to notice the opportunity to have an impact on the many.
—A person who is diligent to manage details may be determined to do things exactly right, but his perfectionism makes him rigid, judgmental and offensive. He never feels that his work is finished, and he never thinks yours is done, either.
—A person who has grand and glorious visions may be impatient with others who are slow to get on board.
Any strength or skill, when it is taken to an extreme and isn’t tempered by wisdom and love, can become detrimental to the person, the team, and the organization. As the old saying goes, “Too much of even a good thing is still too much!” The solution isn’t to deny or minimize the strength, but instead, to use it in the right context with the right motive. In addition, we need to learn to value the skills and traits that complement and balance our strengths. We can get into trouble when we rely too much on our own strengths.
How about you? Which of your strengths also tends to become a liability in ministry if not used properly? Comment below and share it with the Kidmin Community.