WEEKLY KIDMIN QUESTION:
“How do you respond when you really blow it?”
I am excited to announce that my brand new book, “I Blew It!” will be released next week (you can pre-order it now by clicking here)! In this book, I document the BIGGEST mistakes I have made in Kids Ministry and how YOU can avoid them. Since I started talking about writing the book, many have asked me, “How did you keep from giving up when you made such huge mistakes?” or “How were you able to use your biggest mistakes to move forward instead of backward?”
It’s not an easy process, nor is it one that I learned very easily. But, over the years I developed a series of questions that I ask anytime I really blow it big-time. These are questions that might help you through the process of learning from your mistakes:
1) Why did it happen? Was it a lack of planning, unrealistic expectations, poor communication, wrong motives, unforeseen obstacles, or some other reason?
2) Was it avoidable? Many of our goofs can be avoided with better planning, communication, and execution, but some can’t.
3) If it could have been avoided, what specifically could I have done to prevent it?
4) What do I need to know, be, or do to avoid repeating the mistake?
Sometimes this is a process you can do all on your own. Other times, you may need to bring a trusted outside voice into the situation to help you evaluate and answer these questions. The number one rule in this process: DON’T BE DEFENSIVE! You can’t come to the table with a defensive posture. If you spend your time defending your motives, your intentions, and your methods – then you defeat the purpose of evaluating.
Instead, be open. Every mistake is an opportunity to grow. Learn from them. That way you don’t ever have to repeat them. We are going to make mistakes. Let’s just be determined to make NEW ones – not repeat the old ones. Learn from your mistakes – and keep growing!!!
How about you? What do you do in order to help you make sure to learn from your mistakes? Comment and let us know!